20110222 眾裡尋他/她 Study Notes

20110222 眾裡尋他/她 Study Notes

1. don't find love to fulfill other needs
2. the question: would you like someone you love more, or someone who loves you more?
3. Guys like to chase gals, gals like to be chased by guys, but God brings a couple together, the need of having a mate is first seen by God
4. Don't see the 'making of' of the other half (the making of could quite horrible), just the finished product
5a. Where does the mate come from: within you! There are pros and cons for similar or complimentary other half
5b. marriage is one and only one 認定 and the commitment must be initiated by the guy
5c. know your need, e.g. in Marslow hierarchy of needs. If you do not know your needs, pray. It is because God knows the most of your needs
5d. the other half, it is the other half of you, but not of your mom, not of your friend, not of your pastor
5e. if either one is relying heavily of the other it is very tiredsome, so prepare yourself to be a healthy person
6a. Is there need to find a mate?
The need of a mate is in born
The gift of alone is that everyone has to live along.
If entering a marriage we are not finding a good partner, 同等的, you might be finding a 膏藥 sticking on your wound, one day you 痊癒 you will find you do not need the 膏藥 anymore 膏藥又臭又沒用，不知係到做咩。
6b. Where can I find a mate?
在人類當中，一個異性 your missing part
6c. How can I find a mate?
before entering into marriage, 神要亞當先成長, i/ God will train the person's management ability, and ready for the commitment, ready for 愛和專一. ii/ God will let the person feel lonely and then know his need, God will train the person's thanksgiving heart. After learning these two things, God will bring the other half in front of you.
6d. How do I know is the one?
Unknown now is normal. 沉睡, in a deep sleep when God is preparing. Get a rest before the bride is brought in front of you. Enjoy the rest and grow up during this time.
7. What makes the love relationship difficult?
a. People brings their wants / past pains into the love relationship.
b. Sin. Selfishness.
8. A happy love relationship: the two are giving to each other
9. Conclusion: find someone you love and who loves you. It is just 先後次序 during chasing, but after entering marriage, both must love each other deeply. find someone you can commit to. treasure someone who can commit to you. be thankful.

http://www.upwill.org/sermon/20-2010-11-25-06-40-31/5947-preach